That last post has me thinking about Paganism in connection to alternative relationship structures, and how Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart, who coined the term polyamory, also helped to found the first registered Neopagan church in the U.S. and how that might be relevant for those of us who are both a-spec and Pagan.
We talk a lot about how the poly community and a-spec community overlap, interact and share values due to an allowance for non-normative relationship styles. For those of us who practice some form of Neopagan spiritual tradition, I think this can also help link us to our religious communities. Personally, I have always viewed Pagan spiritual space as being a place for alternative relationship models. I think more than half of the other Pagans I know are poly or otherwise queer, and those who aren’t still often participated in cis, heterosexual, monogamy in a non-normative way. This is due, at least partially, to the shared history and community values of Paganism and polyamory.
From an aroace perspective then, I can say that growing up in Pagan spaces gave me many different examples of how a non-normative relationship might work. It lessened my anxiety about what the future would look like as an aroace, because I could see a large portion of my community building their relationships, families, and support networks in a way that didn’t fit the norm. That understanding creates a wholeness to my identities. My spiritual identity helped build a framework for my queer identity to grab onto, and so my aro-ness is part of my ace-ness, my aroace-ness is part of my pagan-ness, and my relationship anarchy and non-monogamy is wrapped up in all of it.
Anyways, I’m interested to know if other neopagan a-specs also feel this connection between their identity and their spirituality. I know these values can shift a little across religion and congregation, so I would love to hear people’s thoughts.
Please intract with this if you are/like any of the following~
Lgbtq+
Poly
Pagan
Alternative
Grunge fairycore
420 friendly
Ghost bc
Gorillaz
21 pilots
What We Do in the Shadows
Futureman
The Boys
Trying to make to mutals so please intract<3
Anyone else get that feeling where they want to come out to people but simply can’t be bothered to deal with all the surprise and what a big deal it will be made into?
In polyamory, we don’t divide our love; we multiply it. It’s about expanding the capacity to love and be loved.
as a polyarmous queer person i hate how a lot of queer content is inherently jealously driven
im over here like “hm? there a cute guy? omg babe slay no i dont just say yes i encourage you to kiss him babe.”
like omg? my partner? has mad rizz? slay kiss all you want just give me a heads up
i wanna see more representation of that
because polyarmous love is beautiful too
its not any less loving because i have just so much love to give
we are capable of loving so many just as much as we love one, isn’t queerness about unique love?
we need to celebrate polyamory more
“Ah! They’re all so good I could never pick just one favorite, haha!!”
Cool. So you do understand polyamory then.
“All you can do in life is to be who you are. Some people will love you for you. Most will love you for what you can do for them, and some won’t like you at all.” - Rita Mae Brown
This may be controversial but I think polyamory should be in tv shows and video games. I think there’s so many unexplored dynamics for romcom relationships and we simply deserve these kinds of stories.
